Selena Gomez Is Grateful For Painfully Honest 2022 ‘My Mind & Me’ Doc, But Says ‘That’s Not Necessarily Who I Am Now’

Selena Gomez has long been an open book about her struggles with mental and physical health. In a new Allure cover story, the singer admitted that she finds it hard to watch her warts-and-all 2022 documentary My Mind & Me, especially scenes in which she shares her painful, daily struggle with the autoimmune disease Lupus, as well as her mental health challenges.

“I’m very glad it came out, but that’s not necessarily who I am now,” said the multi-hyphenate singer-actress-beauty mogul who is seen in the film being diagnosed as bipolar after a period of psychosis that landed her in a mental health treatment facility. “To be honest, I can’t watch it. But it’s only because I’m not there anymore.”

She calls the doc a “time capsule” that can hopefully help others struggling with their mental health figure out what’s going on with them. “Oh, that really dark thought? I thought that. Those really high highs? I’ve had those,” she said. “I try to make people feel seen so they don’t feel what people say ‘crazy’ is.”

One of the ways Gomez supports her mental health these days is through DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), a kind of talk therapy that helps a patient focus on mindfulness, emotional regulation and distress tolerance.

As an example, Gomez said she was “stung” by a person calling her “fat,” which she responded to by asking, “Why is that [emotion] coming up?,” in an example of the internal dialogue she has with herself when a difficult emotion bubbles up. She said DBT is what has helped her unpack her reactions to such situations. “Oh, now I understand, that’s stemming from that one time when I was going through some medical stuff and I had gained weight…,” she said.

Gomez, 33, of course also touched on her love story with fiancé music producer Benny Blanco, with whom she released the joint 2025 album I Said I Love You First, 17 years after they first met when the singer was 16. Asked if she’s glad their relationship began recently, and not a decade ago, Gomez said, “Definitely. I don’t think I would have been remotely mature enough. It’s weird to think that only five years ago I wouldn’t have been in the right place, but I’ve learned so many lessons [since then] that led me to being the best partner I could be for Benny. And I believe the same with him.”

And while she said Blanco sometimes wonders why they wasted so much time getting together, Gomez said she often tells him, “‘You wouldn’t have liked me back then.’ I was all over the place.’”

For now, Gomez is super-focused on her Rare beauty brand, saying, “I am going to be in this moment. And who knows, in a couple years I could be done, and that’s fine. I just need to make sure that while I’m here, I do the best I can.” She still plans to give all her film, TV and music projects her “undivided” attention, but noted, “it’ll always go back to Rare and the fund because that’s something I deeply care about,” in reference to the philanthropic Rare Impact Fund focused on providing underserved communities with access to mental health services.

According to a 2024 Business of Fashion report, Rare Beauty raked in more than $400 million in net sales in the previous year, helping the fund get closer to its goal of sending $100 million to its partner organizations.

“We’re like the little engine that could,” she said of Rare. “And we’re still going.”